Every individual must decide for themselves whether and when it is appropriate to come out, and for many LGBTQ+ people, coming out is a lifelong process that occurs repeatedly, not just once. Nobody owes anyone information about their sexual orientation, gender identity, or sex life in general–sexuality is private, and everyone has the right to privacy. Everyone in a romantic relationship should have an open and honest dialogue about their likes, dislikes, wants, needs, and boundaries on a regular basis. This should include when, how, and how often you’ll communicate, what you’re comfortable with romantically or sexually, and what kind of commitment you’re looking for, especially when you’re first getting to know someone. Queer people who are not out must be even more vigilant in ensuring that everyone in the relationship is on the same page about what is and isn’t acceptable.
